Who can benefit?
Everyone. Your sexual orientation or marital status is irrelevant – relationship problems transcend such considerations. Sometimes those in a relationship – whether straight, gay or from an ethnic community – have no idea how to communicate effectively. Starting a process of counselling can often be of help; showing people how to listen is a big part of it. Therapy is both a practical and creative process and potentially a transformative one.
What happens at the first session?
This first consultation will be a chance to hear about your difficulties and for me to explain how therapy works. The particular relationship negotiated between a therapist and a client is always unique and I encourage a trusting alliance or partnership in therapy. The relationship between the therapist and client is at the heart of the process – having confidence in your therapist is very important and will enable you to get the best out of the counselling sessions. Our first session is an opportunity to see whether we’re a good “fit”, and also for you to decide whether I’m the right therapist for you. Not only will you be able to establish your comfort level, but you will also get to know me and my therapeutic style; at the same time you will be able to determine whether I am somebody you are able to trust to share in your journey.
For how long do we have to attend sessions?
This is difficult to answer as there is no minimum or maximum duration for therapy. It requires commitment of time and focus. When we decide to end the work, we will require at least three weeks to discuss the meaning and what was achieved.
Is the therapy weekly and how long is each session?
Yes, it is weekly. We arrange to meet on the same day and at the same time each week for an hour.
Do we get homework?
No, counsellors do not give homework or advice. However, therapy can provide insight that is hard to find from family or friends.
My partner isn’t keen on counselling. Can I come on my own?
Of course. However, as the work is all about relationships, whenever possible, it’s best for both partners to attend. You may also find that your partner changes his or her mind once you’ve decided to commit to regular counselling. There are also those who need to mourn a loss in the aftermath of a broken or failed relationship – naturally, they attend counselling on their own.